November Light-Heartedness Newsletter

“Giving Thanks in Challenging Times”

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Thanksgiving Humor

Why did the turkey cross the road?

What is the Turkey's favorite black tie celebration?

The Butter Ball

If the Pilgrims were alive today, what would they be most famous for?

Their AGE

Did you hear about the X-rated turkey?

It's served with very little dressing

What do you get when you cross a turkey, the beach, and Broomhilda?

A turkey sand-witch

Why did the turkey cross the road?

It was the chicken's day off

A lady was picking through the frozen turkeys at the grocery store, but couldn't find one big enough for her family. She asked the stock boy, "Do these turkeys get any bigger?" The stock boy answered, "No ma'am, they're dead."

What kind of music did the Pilgrims like?

Plymouth Rock

When did the Pilgrims first say "God bless America?"

The first time they heard America sneeze!

What are unhappy cranberries called?


How can you tell a male turkey from a female turkey?

The male is the one holding the remote control

What is your favorite thing to make for Thanksgiving dinner?


Why didn't the turkey eat dessert?

He was stuffed!

What's blue and covered with feathers?

A turkey holding its breath!

What cat discovered America?

Christofurry Columbus!

Why was the monster tickled when he ate the turkey?

Because he forgot to pluck the feathers!

What's the best way to stuff a turkey?

Take him out for pizza and ice cream!

How can you make a turkey float?

You need 2 scoops of ice cream, some root beer, and a turkey

Why did they let the turkey join the band?

Because he had drumsticks

Why did the police arrest the turkey?

They suspected it of fowl play

What would you get if you crossed a turkey with an octopus?

Eight feather dusters!

What do rich people eat on Thanksgiving?

14 Karats

Why did the Indian chief wear so many feathers?

To keep his wigwam

What happened to the Pilgrim who was shot at by an Indian?

He had an arrow escape

Welcome to the Light-Heartedness Newsletter!

Kari JoysThere's been a lot going on in the world in the last few months. We've witnessed hurricanes and fires, national elections and economic crashes, and people and families going through very difficult times. It reminds me of Bob Dylan's song "The times, they are a–changing!" Sometimes it feels like a roller coaster ride where you have to hold on to your seat for dear life and hope to God you survive!

With everything going on around us, it's definitely time to choose light-heartedness every day. To help you do that, we have gathered lots of good information for you this month. Here's what you'll find in this newsletter:

  • News Flash: Kari Joys on "News for the Soul" Radio
  • 7 Tips for Staying Light-Hearted in Challenging Financial Times
  • A New Kind of Gratitude at Thanksgiving
  • 8 Tips for Light-Heartedness during Dysfunctional Family Gatherings
  • Readers Contribute!
  • Thanksgiving Humor

Kari Joys MS offers tools for transforming challenging emotional issues into joy, peace and light-heartedness. She provides counseling and psychotherapy in Spokane, Washington for anxiety, depression, self-esteem, abuse or dysfunctional family issues, and for couples, marriage or divorce issues. Kari offers books, workshops and FREE Light-Heartedness E-Letters nationwide!

Kari Joys MS is the director of the Center for Creative Change. She is a compassionate author, a highly recognized psychotherapist, a skilled group facilitator and a powerful energy therapist. Through her psychotherapy and her intensive personal growth workshops, Kari has guided thousands of people through the incredible emotional healing journey that opens the door to fulfilling one's highest spiritual purpose.

Thanksgiving Humor

Q. What international catastrophes occurred when the waiter dropped the tray on Thanksgiving?

A. The downfall of Turkey, the overflow of Grease, and the destruction of China.

News Flash: Listen to Kari Joys on "News for the Soul" Radio

Nicole Whitney, the "Oprah of the Internet," interviewed me on "News for the Soul" radio twice last month. We had fun discussing how to stay light-hearted during challenging financial times.

It was exciting to be on the same radio show where Greg Braden of  "The Isaiah Effect" and "The Spontaneous Healing of Belief;" Dannion Brinkley of "Saved by the Light;" Dr. Hew Len of "The Ho'oponopono Prayer;" and James Ray of "The Secret" have recently been interviewed.

Listen to the shows by visiting the News for the Soul archives.

Seven Tools for Staying Light-Hearted in Challenging Times

It's been a tough few months here in the "good old USA." Many people are facing very difficult situations, keeping their jobs and their homes. Most of us have never faced these kinds of challenges in our lives. We don't know if we can survive or if we can care for our families. You may think that staying light-hearted is impossible in a world like this.

So what can you do to stay light-hearted in challenging times?

1. Cry the tears that need to be cried — tears clean the windows of your soul! If there's no one to talk to, write about your feelings in your journal until your body relaxes and you feel a sense of relief.

2. See every challenge as an opportunity to grow! Ask for Divine Help to face your challenges in the best way possible and to find a positive solution that feels good to you.

3. Choose a new reality. Just tell yourself "I'm choosing a new reality," then change your negative thoughts and beliefs about the challenge to positive thoughts and beliefs.

4. Imagine in living color what it would be like if a total miracle happened in your life. What you would see, hear, feel, smell and taste, if, by some miracle , you were able to find a positive solution to your challenges?

5. Brainstorm possible solutions until you find one that feels good to you. Take some positive action today towards changing your life for the better.

6. Practice showing love to every person you come in contact with. Remember that when you give love, love also comes back to you!

7. Look at the funny side of life and find things to laugh about! Share your sense of humor with everyone around you, so that they can laugh and have fun too.

Repeat this process every day until things get better. Once you get started, you may want to continue doing it for the rest of your life!

Thanksgiving Humor

Q. What did the mother turkey say to her disobedient children?

A. If your father could see you now, he'd turn over in his gravy!

A New Kind of Gratitude at Thanksgiving

Now that our USA presidential election is over, we all have a lot to be thankful for! People all over the world are joining us to celebrate the election of Barack Obama to be our next president. Thank God for the opportunity we now have to work together to bring our country back to what our forefathers originally intended it to be! But, as Obama himself said in his acceptance speech, there is still much more work to be done.

On Thanksgiving Day in the USA, we give thanks for our blessings throughout the entire year. It's a day we set aside just to be grateful for all the goodness in our lives. It's important to be grateful, not just for the basic things in our lives, like health, family and job, but also for the more specific, special moments, like a good talk with a dear friend, a new inspiring insight about ourselves or a refreshing walk on a beautiful day.

Gratitude for our Challenges

Being thankful for what we've already received is wonderful, but often we forget to also be grateful for our challenges. Our challenges are the learning tools that help us grow into bigger, better human beings. It's often through overcoming those challenges that we learn and grow and become more fully our True Selves. If we had no challenges, we may never develop the skills and talents we need to fulfill our purposes on the earth.

Think back in your life of a challenge you overcame and ask yourself, "How did I learn and grow from that challenge? How am I different today than I would have been if I had never experienced it?" Maybe you experienced a death or a loss recently and because of that loss you had to do some inner healing, but your inner healing brought into your life wonderful new friends and experiences that you wouldn't have enjoyed otherwise.

Or maybe you were abused as a child and you had to go to therapy to overcome the abuse, but as a result you were then able to help other children overcome the abuse in their lives. Or maybe you had a business that failed and as a result of that experience you found a new kind of work that you love even more. There are many ways that challenges can help you become a healthier, happier human being.

So why not be grateful for your challenges this year? Be grateful that the Universe is providing you another opportunity to use your natural talents and abilities to overcome the difficulties in your life. Why not approach your challenges with a sense of wonder, asking "What is the good that will come into my life as a result of this challenge?"

Gratitude for the Resolution to our Challenges

And while you're being grateful, it's always good to also be grateful in advance for the resolution of that challenge. You could say "Thank you, God, for helping me overcome this challenge in my life and thank you for helping me find solutions that are better than I could ever imagine myself!"

When you are grateful for your blessings in advance, because you know the Universe is already working in your life, you simply speed up the process of finding resolution. Then it's fun to watch how the resolution to your challenge appears in your life. Certainly you have to keep working to take any action you know towards finding resolution, but it's very fun to watch how the Universe contributes to that process.

So in this year of bigger challenges, let's give thanks for our challenges and give thanks in advance for the resolution to those challenges. Remember that the Universe is so much bigger and smarter than any of us could ever be on our own. It has new, exciting possibilities that will totally surprise us and fill our lives with joy and wonder if we simply open our hearts to that possibility.

Eight Tips for Light-Heartedness During Dysfunctional Family Gatherings

With Thanksgiving Day just around the corner, some of you who grew up in dysfunctional families are already dreading the family holiday gatherings. You may be bored with Great Aunt Martha who talks about her latest illnesses or frustrated with Uncle Bob, who's always drunk before he ever arrives.

Some of you may have a Mom or Dad who was never there for you as a child, but now, as an adult, they demand all your time and attention. Family gatherings remind you just how dysfunctional your family really was!

So what can you do to make it a light-hearted holiday?

1. Take care of yourself emotionally before the family gathering. Work on your own self esteem by journaling to release any negative feelings or by standing in front of your mirror and saying kind, loving words to yourself, like "I love you just the way you are. You're beautiful and special and important to me!"

2. Visualize having a positive experience, but don't expect other people to do what you want them to do. Before you go to the gathering, take time to imagine having fun while you're there and feeling good about yourself when you leave. Just remember that you can't make other people change. When you handle things in a healthy way, you'll feel better just knowing that you have grown.

3. Start the gathering on a positive, light-hearted note. Compliment every person you meet and ask them positive questions about their lives. Show a genuine interest in them and what's going on in their lives.

4. Keep the conversation positive. If a conversation turns negative, you can always change the subject, walk away or just say "I don't think this is a good time to discuss that—could we talk about it later?"

Poster: Your Spirit Shines Bright when Your Heart is Light5. Share light-hearted humor that everyone can enjoy. Don't laugh at anyone else's expense, but find something to laugh about that is funny to everyone.

6. Limit the time you are willing to spend and plan an escape if things get difficult. Now that you're an adult, you are in charge of your life. If your family is difficult to be around, stop by for an hour or two and then go do something with people who can be positive and supportive to you.

7. Give yourself time after the gathering to process anything that was difficult or painful to you. Be sure to journal your feelings or talk to a dear friend about what happened if it affects you negatively. What happens at the family gatherings often reminds you of old wounds that may still need some time and attention for healing.

8. Congratulate yourself when you're able to handle family situations better than you did before! Personal growth is hard work, and it's very important to remember to acknowledge yourself when you make progress. If you handled it better this year than last year, you're a success!

Remember, light-heartedness is a choice that only you can make for yourself. Almost all of us came from dysfunctional families. The issue is not how to change your family to make them give you what you always needed and wanted, it's how can you heal yourself today so that you can enjoy your own life. I hope you have a lovely, light-hearted holiday!

Readers Contribute

We'd love to hear back from you! Your heart-felt stories will help others who are going through challenges in their lives have the strength and courage to hang in there when the going is tough. Please send any responses to

  • Did anything you read in this newsletter that inspired you to make changes in your life? Please share what happened when you put this into practice.
  • Please share with us any stories you have about overcoming your dysfunctional family issues in a light-hearted way.
  • For our Christmas issue, please share any Christmas stories related to dysfunctional families or light-heartedness.
  • Please tell us any interesting experiences you had working with Kari Joys either in private counseling, or with her book, her e-course or her light-heartedness workshops.
  • Tell us about the most important book you've read that helped you overcome depression, anxiety, poor self esteem, relationship issues or dysfunctional family issues.

Kari Joys
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Phone: 509-534-7374
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November Light-Heartedness Newsletter

“Giving Thanks in Challenging Times”

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